We introduce a new family of high order accurate semi-implicit schemes for the solution of nonlinear time-dependent systems of partial differential equations (PDE) on unstructured polygonal meshes. The time discretization is based on a splitting between explicit and implicit terms that may arise either from the multi-scale nature of the governing equations, which involve both slow and fast scales, or in the context of projection methods, where the numerical solution is projected onto the physically meaningful solution manifold. We propose to use a high order finite volume (FV) scheme for the explicit terms, hence ensuring conservation property and robustness across shock waves, while the virtual element method (VEM) is employed to deal with the discretization of the implicit terms, which typically requires an elliptic problem to be solved. The numerical solution is then transferred via suitable L2 projection operators from the FV to the VEM solution space and vice-versa. High order time accuracy is then achieved using the semi-implicit IMEX Runge–Kutta schemes, and the novel schemes are proven to be asymptotic preserving (AP) and well-balanced (WB). As representative models, we choose the shallow water equations (SWE), thus handling multiple time scales characterized by a different Froude number, and the incompressible Navier–Stokes equations (INS), which are solved at the aid of a projection method to satisfy the solenoidal constraint of the velocity field. Furthermore, an implicit discretization for the viscous terms is also devised for the INS model, which is based on the VEM technique. Consequently, the CFL-type stability condition on the maximum admissible time step is based only on the fluid velocity and not on the celerity nor on the viscous eigenvalues. A large suite of test cases demonstrates the accuracy and the capabilities of the new family of schemes to solve relevant benchmarks in the field of incompressible fluids.