An Appreciation of Tony Kris James P. Frosch (bio) It didn't have to turn out this way. A young man born to the psychoanalytic manor, so to speak, could have developed into a not so young man who elevated himself above others and dedicated himself to the preservation of orthodoxy and the enhancement of his power. Instead, somehow, we have quite the opposite: a man who has lived a life of generosity, a life of personal and professional growth based on a fearless soul-searching of himself, a life of love and generativity. Love of the intellectual, love of the sensual, love of loving. The somehow of how people develop into who they are is always something of a mystery, and so it is with Tony. Somehow, he evolved into someone who embodies the Aristotelian virtue of balance. Balance between respect for tradition and appreciating the necessity for radical innovation. Balance between a healthy regard for self, and a capacity to admire and sacrifice for others. Balance between providing a place for the passions, but also for temperance and reason. In response to a question about who were Tony's major influences, he wrote the following in an email: "There were so many influences. Anna Freud and my father were my best teachers, but my mother's way with patients was probably even more influential. Semrad added a depth that I have aimed to achieve. Jocke Murray helped me understand my own narcissism, though my formulations were different from his. The work with psychotic adolescents drew my attention to ambivalence." A glance at Tony's CV reveals a broad range of experiences. Notable were training at Mass Mental Health Center in its heyday, directing a unit at the old Boston State Hospital dedicated to the treatment of psychotic adolescents, and a two-year stint doing empirical research in the department of neuroendocrinology at the Walter Reed Institute of Research while in the Army Reserves (yes, you can accurately call him Captain Kris). In addition to the influential psychoanalytic papers which we all [End Page 703] know, there were early papers that make for fascinating reading, such as one on the function of a library on an inpatient adolescent unit, and a prescient paper on combining behavior therapy with psychodynamic therapy in a State Hospital setting. Experiences are never lost, they either remain dissociated and sequestered or, as in Tony's case, become integrated into a whole that grasps complexity. It may be that Tony's experience doing laboratory research strengthened his belief that theory must never take precedence over observation. I first met Tony during my candidacy, which began in 1978. He was already a legendary and hard-to-get supervisor, and I joined the waitlist. Finally, he had time to supervise my third case (by this time we are in the early 1980s). Tony was in his early forties then and had already had a heart attack. His father had died of an MI in his fifties. Tony was about to have a coronary artery bypass surgery; I can't remember whether triple or quadruple. I think Tony never expected to live as long as he has. Though not uncaring of other people, I was an ambitious young man in a hurry. I had a bunch of potential analytic cases in my practice, and I wanted to be approved to see my third case and do unsupervised work at the same time. I needed a letter from Tony. So I had a lot of different thoughts. I was already developing a love for Tony and was worried about him. I also worried he would die on the operating table before writing the letter I needed. All of a sudden, Tony looked at me with affection and no judgment and started laughing. He said, "I'll write the letter before the operation." I don't know how he read my mind, probably through his extraordinary ability to put himself in the mind and situation of the other. But what really struck me was the non-judgmental acceptance of my self-interested thought and his genuine amusement about it, not to mention his existential courage in facing the possibility of...
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