We study the self-similar transmission of optical beams inside an inhomogeneous birefringent tapered graded-index nonlinear fiber amplifier within the framework of generalized coupled Schrödinger equations with spatially inhomogeneous nonlinearity, group velocity dispersion, tapering and gain or loss. New kinds of similariton solutions for the governing model are constructed by means of the similarity transformation method. Especially, the M-shaped and W-shaped similariton pulses are found successfully for the first time, which do not exist in single-mode waveguide amplifier. In addition, bright–dark similaritons are found in the presence of tapering effect. It is shown that these waveforms exhibit a quadratic phase structure, which leads to chirped self-similar pulses. In addition, we determine the relationships among the tapering profile, gain or loss distribution, nonlinearity, and similariton width, which provide the required conditions for controlling the self-similar wave dynamics. Moreover, we discuss the dynamical evolution of the similariton pulses under the influence of special tapering profiles, which are of physical importance in practical applications. The results show that through selecting the appropriate tapering, dispersion and nonlinearity profiles, we can control the dynamics of similaritons effectively.