Tailings ponds are recognized as significant sources of potential man-made debris flow and major environmental disasters. Recent frequent tailings dam failures and growing trends in fine tailings outputs underscore the critical need for innovative monitoring and safety management techniques. Here, we propose an approach that integrates UAV photogrammetry with convolutional neural networks (CNNs) to extract beach line indicators (BLIs) and conduct enhanced dam safety evaluations. The significance of real 3D geometry construction in numerical analysis is investigated. The results demonstrate that the optimized You Only Look At CoefficienTs (YOLACT) model outperforms in recognizing the beach boundary line, achieving a mean Intersection over Union (mIoU) of 72.63% and a mean Pixel Accuracy (mPA) of 76.2%. This approach shows promise for future integration with autonomously charging UAVs, enabling comprehensive coverage and automated monitoring of BLIs. Additionally, the anti-slide and seepage stability evaluations are impacted by the geometry shape and water condition configuration. The proposed approach provides more conservative seepage calculations, suggesting that simplified 2D modeling may underestimate tailings dam stability, potentially affecting dam designs and regulatory decisions. Multiple numerical methods are suggested for cross-validation. This approach is crucial for balancing safety regulations with economic feasibility, helping to prevent excessive and unsustainable burdens on enterprises and advancing towards the goal of zero harm to people and the environment in tailings management.