This article recounts the week in which the author and his four sisters spent waiting for their father to die, and suggests that intimacy or friendship viewed as ‘shared estrangement’ – a friendship or intimacy not rooted in sharing common ground – might provide a lens through which to consider the nature of the deep bond that developed between the author and his siblings during that week. Raising the possibility that the relationship between author and his sisters could in some ways be read as a <i>queer </i>one, not least because it demanded an openness to alterity and requireds attention and care, mutual trust, and, bizarre as it may sound, even betrayal, the author suggests that a deep bond slowly developed between the siblings during the week being described, not <i>despite</i> the prtofound differences between the siblings, but partly <i>because</i> of it.