The staking quality of Self-lubricating Spherical Plain Bearings (SSPBs) directly affects the safety of aircraft and the service life of bearings. Reliable loading process control methods and precise process parameter indexes will come into the creation of efficacious staking quality. Therefore, this paper aims to analyze the mechanical state of the roller staking process and give a load control method and corresponding parameter indexes for the high-quality roller staking process. First, based on the analysis of quality inspection requirements, five states of the deformation degree of the flanging lip of the V groove during the roller staking process were proposed, and their relationship with the requirements was studied. Then, the mechanical states corresponding to the five deformation states of the flanging lip deformation were obtained by numerical simulation, and the feeding displacement was determined. Meanwhile, a Multi-Stage Composite Loading (MSCL) process control method was first proposed to control the material damage of the flanging lip, i.e., the rotate speed of the roller tool was constant during the roller staking process, and the displacement–time control was adopted first; when the staking load reaches a staking value, the force–time control was used to make the staking quality meet the requirements. Finally, the staking quality of the MSCL method was verified though the test. The research shows that the feeding displacement needs to be added to the requirements, and the recommended value is 0.5–0.6 times of the V groove depth. A good surface quality and non-material-damage of the flanging lip is more likely to be obtained by the MSCL process control method. The research reveals the formation mechanism of process deformation, and gives more precise process control indexes. At the same time, it provides a theoretical reference for more reliable technical standards.