“We’re Just Talking”: Constructing a Recent Trend in Emerging Adult Romantic Relationship Development

Abstract

Emerging adults’ relationship development is an increasingly multi-faceted process characterized by ambiguity. Just talking has emerged as a phrase to characterize early relationship formation in popular culture, yet it remains understudied in the empirical literature. Constructivist grounded theory was used to explore this phenomenon in modern romantic relationship formation employing nine focus groups (N = 52) of emerging adult men and women from two large Midwestern universities. Eleven unique themes were generated to identify how emerging adult men and women conceptualize just talking (pre-dating, ambiguity about commitment, unofficial romantic label), reasons for just talking (pressure to keep options open, protection from rejection, testing the waters, avoiding defining the relationship), and how technology may facilitate the just talking process (increases the pool of potential partners, comfortable frequent contact, image crafting, less effort required). The findings have substantial implications for educators, clinicians, and other professionals who work with emerging adults.