Irrespective of the legal status of abortion, access to abortion services for women is fraught with numerous challenges across the world. A recent study in India found that most women who had an abortion sought care outside an authorised facility or from a less qualified provider. An analysis of women’s experiences in seeking abortion services would provide a better understanding of the underlying reasons. This paper is based on a qualitative study of the experiences of 16 married women from rural Tamil Nadu, India. The in-depth interviews focused on their pregnancy and childbirth experiences and access to abortion services. The study highlights the obstacle course that women seeking to terminate an unwanted pregnancy have to traverse. Many women were not aware of the legal status of abortion, and frontline workers discouraged them and gave misleading information. The pathways to seeking an abortion were more complex for women from marginalised communities. Providers were judgemental and used delaying tactics or denied abortion services. For the less privileged women, abortion services from government health facilities were conditional on the acceptance of female sterilisation. The providers’ attitudes in government and private health facilities were disrespectful of the women seeking abortion services. To uphold the reproductive and human rights of women who seek abortion services, we need accessible and publicly funded health care services that respect the dignity of all women, are empathetic and uphold women’s right to safe abortion services.