The birds and the bees...the BIG discussion...the sex talk—dreaded by adults everywhere! It is the rare parent of an adolescent, with or without a disability, who feels confident explaining sexuality to their child. It is a topic devoid of black and white rules; in which each concept requires balancing multiple considerations, understanding abstraction, and making fine judgments. While becoming a mature, independent sexual being is a formidable task for any adolescent, the challenges associated with taking this step for individuals with Asperger’s Syndrome are intensified exponentially. The skills needed to master these complexities are precisely those affected by the disability. With her new book, Making Sense of Sex, Sarah Attwood has stepped forward to help individuals with Asperger’s Syndrome conquer some of the mammoth tasks of puberty. Drawing on both her vast experience as a sexuality educator and her more personal experience as a sister of an individual with Asperger’s Syndrome, Attwood presents sexual education in a direct, straight-forward manner. Using unambiguous language coupled with detailed diagrams and illustrations, Attwood begins sexuality education at the proper beginning—a simple understanding of the human body—and progresses through a comprehensive overview of the varied foundations of sexuality including hygiene, friendships, healthy choices, and more. She attempts to break down complex decisions into concrete guidelines and rules. For example, a flow chart is included (p. 229) indicating steps involved prior to asking someone out on a date. Similarly, when discussing friendships, Attwood lists concrete indicators of whether or not an individual is interested in pursuing a friendship (p. 116). The book begins with an introduction in which Attwood speaks directly to individuals with Asperger’s Syndrome who may be reading the book. She welcomes them to the process and presents an overview of what to expect. While the book is intended to be read directly by the adolescent, it could also be a resource for caregivers to use with individuals who do not read. Next, Attwood includes a note to caregivers. This describes various ways to utilize the book effectively. In addition to her suggestions, the book might be reviewed one chapter at a time as part of an ongoing teaching situation, such as a sexuality education group or in the context of a psycho-educational counseling. In her note to caregivers, Attwood also offers practical tips to support caregivers in conquering these sensitive topics (e.g., admit if you are uncomfortable, be truthful, keep current, p. 23). Chapter 1 provides detailed information and diagrams about both male and female bodies. Discriminating public and private settings, as well as what can be shown or touched in each setting is included here. Chapter 2 focuses on puberty specifically with an eye towards concrete changes to be expected, as well as strategies to respond to these changes (e.g., how to buy a bra p. 68). Next, Chap. 3 includes an overview of caring for this new body ranging from proper hygiene to making yourself appear more attractive. Similarly, Chap. 4 focuses on making healthy choices with the increased independence associated with adolescence. Some of these choices target basic self care (e.g., healthy eating) and some are focused more on prevention of problems (e.g., smoking or drug use). At this point, the book shifts towards more social concerns. First, Chap. 5 helps to explain emotions associated with puberty such as body image or feelings of fitting in. Next, Chap. 6 is a gem of a guide to friendships clarifying what a friend really is, how many friends you need, how to make friends, how to keep friends, etc. Furthermore, B. Glasberg (&) New Jersey, NJ, USA e-mail: bethglas@hotmail.com
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