In this paper, a DEM model of a unidirectional glass fiber reinforced polymer composite sandwich sheet pile (UGFRP-CSSP) is developed to elucidate the damage mechanisms under longitudinal bending and axial compression at the mesoscale, in order to bridge the gap between existing knowledge and its potential applications as sheet pile walls. A series of four-point bending and axial compression tests are performed on UGFRP-CSSP to validate the DEM model, which is calibrated through a sensitivity analysis of the mesoscopic parameters. The failure behavior, crack progress, and initial crack formation of the UGFRP-CSSP are investigated by correlating the results from physical experiments and numerical simulations. The research reveals that the DEM model accurately depicts the failure behavior under bending and compression of unidirectional (UD) composite elements, offering a mesoscopic perspective on the failure origins. It is identified that the tensile shear strength of the resin is the weak point leading to initial failure, as it is lower than that of the glass fibers. Longitudinal bending failure typically initiates at the skin-core interface and around the central axis of core, with cracks propagating longitudinally due to compression shear failure between fibers. Axial compression failure also occurs predominantly at the skin-core interface, with similar longitudinal cracking attributed to tensile shear failure at the acute angle fiber connections in the long span side. Finally, a new viewpoint was proposed that the fiber modulus may have a decisive impact on the failure behavior of UD composite materials.