Parents’ orientation towards autonomy, collaboration, cooperation and the desire to build relationships with the child on a democratic basis, as a rule, does not cause manifestations of malignant aggressiveness of children. In terms of content, this educational strategy and the type of parental relationships are revealed in such a way: the parent is interested in the child’s affairs and plans, tries to help, empathizes, trusts him/her, respects and encourages him/her, and takes into account the child’s opinion. Cooperation is a psychologically optimal and socially desirable type of parental attitude towards children. Our research has shown that the reluctance or inability of parents to establish positive emotional connections with their children largely determines the nature of manifestations of children’s aggressiveness. We have identified indicators of emotional manifestations of parental attitudes towards children: sympathy-antipathy, acceptance-rejection, respect-disdain, rejection and refusal. In our empirical research we identified some main components of general manifestation of parental love: the interest in our life and the development of the child, the manifestation of responsibility and care, close attention to the child’s interests, problems and attitudes, awareness of his/her uniqueness, unconditional acceptance of him/her as the child is. With a lack of these components in the manifestations of parental attitude towards children, the child begins to consider every request or demand as a duty and show resistance. The role of deprivation of a child’s basic needs, which forms a hostile personality is incapable of establishing trusting relationships, and it has to be emphasized in our further research. We think, that according to the theories of childhood aggressiveness, the child’s desire to establish himself/herself with the help of a universal instrument of superiority, such as direct aggression, is explained by his/her experience of a feeling of inferiority associated with a deficiency of parental love. According to our empirical research, a child’s psychological discomfort is due to a lack of parental love, and it increases the destructive element in his/her person, leading to the formation of low self-esteem, aggressiveness, and a tendency toward auto-aggression. Rejection is the most unfavorable, socially and psychologically unacceptable type of parental attitude, indicative according to the development of destructive manifestations of aggressiveness in the period of childhood for senior pupils.
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