Lanthanide ion solvation chemistry in nonaqueous phases is key to understanding and developing effective separation processes for these critical materials. Due to the complexity and inherent disorder of the solution phase, a comprehensive picture of the solvated metal ion is often difficult to generate solely from conventional spectroscopic approaches and electronic structure calculations, particularly in the extractant phase. In this work, we use classical molecular dynamics (MD) simulation with an advanced sampling technique, metadynamics, supplemented by experimental spectroscopy and speciation analysis, to measure lanthanide solvation free energy landscapes. We define coordination-based collective variables to probe the entire range of solvation configurations in the organic phase of lanthanum (La), europium (Eu), and lutetium (Lu) nitrate salts bound with a commonly used extractant, N,N'-dimethyl, N,N'-dioctylhexylethoxymalonamide (DMDOHEMA). The known lanthanide extraction trend of La ≈ Eu > Lu is readily explained by the measured free energy surfaces, which show consistent DMDOHEMA coordination from La to Eu, followed by loss of DMDOHEMA coordination from Eu to Lu. These simulations suggest how ligand crowding at the metal center can control selectivity, in this case resulting in the opposite extraction trend as observed with other conventional extractants, where the enthalpic contribution from increasing lanthanide charge density across the series dominates the extraction energetics. We also find that the presence of inner-sphere water, verified by time-resolved fluorescence, diversifies the accessible solvation structures. As a result, understanding solvation requires consideration of an entire thermodynamic ensemble, rather than the single dominant lowest-energy structure, as is often considered out of necessity in interpretation of spectroscopic data or in electronic structure-based ligand design approaches. In general, we demonstrate how metadynamics uniquely enables investigation of complex, multidimensional solvation energetic landscapes, and how it can explain selectivity trends where extraction is controlled by more complex mechanisms than simple charge density-based selectivity.