ABSTRACT This article is an interrogation of gaps which hide sex in literature. Avoiding the narration of sex is a persistent narrative convention in much literary fiction, and these gaps offer an opportunity for creative writing to intervene. My critical enquiry is grounded in my creative writing practice, which is further grounded in lived experience of disability. As an embodied orientation to the world and a critical concept, disability can be productively used as a methodology which challenges ingrained attitudes to embodiment and capacity, thereby, according to Siebers, ‘defamiliariz[ing] how we think currently about sex’, and how we write it. Following a theoretical elaboration of the presence of absence in narrative, I present an original story ‘How to be an Other’, which plays with Lorrie Moore’s ‘How to be an Other Woman’ and which offers a practical application of how gaps can be generative of new ways of thinking.