Abstract Formation thermodynamics and structure of halogeno and pseudo-halogeno complexes of transition metal(II) and lanthanide(III) ions have been studied in N,N-dimethylacetamide (DMA) and hexamethylphosphoric triamide (HMPA), and compared with those in N,N-dimethylformamide (DMF). Significant differences in the formation thermodynamics and structure among solvents has been explained in terms of a solvation steric effect. A structural survey by EXAFS demonstrates that solvent coordination number of a solvate metal ion is kept unchanged (weak solvation steric effect) or reduced (strong solvation steric effect) when the metal ion is transferred to DMA or HMPA, respectively, from DMF. DMA usually exhibits a weak solvation steric effect. It elucidates that a weak solvation steric effect of DMA is ascribable mainly to a distortion of the M–O–C–N dihedral angle. The solvent effect operates for a complex with a coordination number larger than four in DMF, but it does not for a complex of four-coordination. Lanthanide(III) ions exhibit a specific solvation steric effect, and an outer-sphere bromo complex in DMF changes to an inner-sphere complex in DMA. Besides, the solvent coordination number varies with solvent composition in DMF–DMA mixtures, and the variation manner strongly depends on the metal ion or the ionic radius. HMPA shows a strong solvation steric effect, and halogeno complexation is significantly enhanced in HMPA relative to that in DMF, although HMPA has a stronger electron-pair donating ability. The coordination number is four or five, and the M–O(HMPA) bondlength is significantly shortened.