The enlightenment and development of family sex education is very important for students, and college students have better protection to avoid a high number of sexual accidents. To prove the importance of enlightenment and development of family sex education, this paper accesses to proper method and attitude to spread sex education in the microsystem of system ecology theory, that is sex education in the family. A comprehensive study was conducted by analyzing a series of papers from the perspective of system ecology theory. Many sexual defects lead to a high number of accidents in college students, but also physical injuries and psychological trauma. Sex education is analyzed in terms of the family as the smallest unit in system ecology because the family should be the unit that initially enlightens sex education. The shortcomings of sex education in China are one of the most serious problems in education. It is clear to recognize the present situation of family sex education which is also regarded as a microsystem in the concept of system ecology, such as the influence of parents’ sexual concepts and parents' educational level. Suggestions for family sex education are necessary to be carried out. Chinese college students lack enlightenment and development of sex education, especially family sex education, the smallest sex education development unit. Therefore, parents should be allowed to establish the concept of correctness and cultivate their ability to sex education at the same time. Sex knowledge in the social publicity should also cooperate with family sex education.