With the rapid development of science and technology, the application of artificial intelligence (AI) in STEM (science, technology, engineering and mathematics) is increasingly extensive, which provides a new idea for solving the challenges of women's career development in STEM. This paper deeply discusses the application of AI in counseling, network construction and recruitment of women's STEM career development, aiming at promoting gender equality and women's career growth. In career counseling, AI technology provides customized career advice and development path for women through deep learning and big data analysis. According to personal education background, skill level, hobbies and career goals, the system intelligently recommends suitable career directions, and updates industry trends and job market data in real time to help women make more informed career choices. The AI tutoring system also enhances women's professional self-confidence through functions such as simulated interviews and career planning exercises. In terms of network construction, AI helps women to expand their professional networks more effectively through intelligent recommendation system. Based on user behavior data and preferences, AI accurately recommends industry seminars, technical exchange activities and online communities to promote women to establish contacts with like-minded professionals. AI also assists women in managing and maintaining network relationships, ensures the continuity of network interaction through intelligent reminding functions, and identifies key nodes and influential people to enhance network quality. In the recruitment process, AI technology reduces gender bias and improves the fairness and transparency of recruitment through automatic resume screening, standardized interview process and competency-based evaluation model. AI system can analyze a large amount of data, accurately match the skills and job requirements of female candidates, and improve the employment rate of women in STEM field. At the same time, through transparent algorithm decision-making process and fairness check, the potential gender bias problem in AI algorithm is overcome. The research in this paper provides theoretical support and practical guidance for using AI technology to promote women's career development in STEM field, and helps to build a more equal and inclusive scientific and technological working environment.