One of the most important shifts in the theorisation of the social construction of gender identities has been the recognition of their relational and multiple nature. In my work, on merchant banking in the city of London, I suggested that two dominant rhetorics of masculinity and gendered performances, adopted by men working in particular spaces in banks, were distinguishable. In this paper, I return to the interviews that I undertook with these men, re-reading the transcripts in order to try to demonstrate that a more nuanced understanding of the complex and contradictory ways that men interact with other men in the workplace – peers, subordinates and superiors – is possible. The focus of this paper is on the ways in which men manage other men, unpicking the dominant or hegemonic view of male managers as rational. Men, as well as women, engage in emotional labour in organisations. In my earlier work, I drew only on the interviews that I had carried out with men in professional positions, contrasting corporate financiers with dealers and traders. Here I also draw on interviews with men in back office employment, in professional and in technical and clerical occupations, contrasting the management styles of these men with those of corporate finance managers.