Resorcinol-formaldehyde (RF) aerogel materials exhibit remarkable properties such as low density, ablation resistance (high residual carbon rate), easily regulated pore structure and low thermal conductivity, making them promising for applications in adsorption, medicine and aerospace, among others. However, since their inception, RF aerogels have suffered from disadvantages such as brittleness and long preparation cycles, which have severely limited their widespread use. In order to improve the mechanical properties of RF aerogels, this paper presents a new synthetic route for obtaining strong elastic properties without introducing additional fiber reinforcement. Here, a lightweight, compressible, elastic resorcinol-formaldehyde aerogel with cobalt-ligand-enhanced cross-linked skeletons was prepared by sol-gel and freeze-drying methods using an alkali metal salt (cobalt (II) acetate) as a cross-linking agent and sodium acetate as a catalyst. The coordination of metal ions (Co2+) with resorcinol resulted in the formation of a structure analogous to a metal-phenolic network (MPN), which altered the crosslinking mode and degree of crosslinking of the RF aerogel. This process led to the thickening of the skeletal structure of the sample. Concurrently, a multilayered pore structure was generated within the interior under the appropriate pH conditions, which contributed to the strengthening of the skeleton of the samples and a reduction in thermal conductivity. The obtained RF-Co aerogel can withstand 68.6 % compression change without fracture and shows good elastic deformation at 35 % compression rate, while the aerogel exhibits low thermal conductivity (0.039 W (m K)−1) and low density (0.09 g cm−3).