Family and sexual relations is one of the most unique relationships in any society where marriage begins. Marriage has a history as old as humanity as one of the most important foundations ofhuman life is accepted. In this regard, women and men can experience the most complex and deepest feelings that may not be possible in any relationship. This important event at the same time as the easiest and most romantic stage life cycle described. (Carter & Mac Goldrik, 1980; quoting thenazari & Navabinejad, 2006). This allows the couple's marital relationship with each other to discuss and exchange ideas, solve their problems and become aware of the needs. Relationships in family life warm and friendly interpersonal interactions that lead to the growth and development of individuals, including goals and requirements of marriage. However, there is evidence that couples severe and pervasive problems maintaining romantic relationships and intimate experience (Hamidi, 2008). These problems can even lead to family breakdown and divorce. Evidence shows that about half of today's marriages end in divorce. After the divorce, about 65 percent of women and 70 percent of men and 50 percent of people who re-marry for the second time married, divorced again (Young & Long, 2005). Inherent and universal needs such as closeness, love, be loved, sex, devotion, attention to security through the presence of an adult human cell... to find a perfect invitation screw (Harvey, 2005; quoted Hussaini, 2010). Marital relations and intimacy is a key characteristic distinguishing feature is a successful marriage. This feature refers to the interaction between spouses stems. The absence or lack of a marital relationship is in turmoil index (Halford, 2005; translated Tabrizi & Kardani, 2008). The Costa and McCrae (1989) presented five principal areas for the introduction of characters that can have an impact on marital intimacy. They have introduced five big personality factors that are of biological fields, the behavioral differences related to the five-factor genes, brain structure and goes like that. The basic tendencies act and feel in particular preparation is not directly affected by environment. (John, Parvin, translation, Javadi, & Alderman, 2007). Along with marital intimacy and character features can be also named sexual self, sexual self-concept is a dynamic and active structure that is created through perceptions about the quality of sex (Deutsch, Hoffman, Wilcox, & Wilderdom, 2014). The sexual Selfconcept perceptions of their features in a sexual context as well (Aubrey, 2007). It should be noted sexual self-concept developed not only on the sexual experience, but men and women can be a variety of social interactions, such as family, sex education programs, media, friends and peers as well as learn (Wilderdom, 2003).Statistical societyThe study population consists of all married individuals living in northern Tehran in the second quarter of 93 are referred to counseling services.MethodThis research is a descriptive and correlational study isParticipantSampling in this study was multistage cluster sampling. Thus, first of psychology and counseling service centers north of Tehran, 6 centers were randomly selected. Then, between two shifts, morning and evening became the morning shift counseling centers during the four months of married patients were studied as an example. And demographic characteristics of the sample can be seen in the table below.InstrumentEstablishment of an instrument to collect data research is required to answer questions, and explain them. Therefore, in this study due to the nature of the question and its objectives, from 3 Personality Inventory, a questionnaire sexual self-Snell and Walker and Thompson intimacy questionnaire was used. 1: five personality factorMcCrae and kasta (1942) have introduced the Big Five personality: neuroticism, extroversion, empiricism (aperture), agreeableness and conscientiousness (conscientiousness). …