The parameters of the discrete element simulation model for rice field soils serve as valuable data references for investigating the dynamic characteristics of the walking wheel of high-speed precision seeding machinery in paddy fields. The research specifically targets clay loam soil from a paddy field in South China. Calibration of essential soil parameters was achieved using EDEM_2022 software (and subsequent versions) discrete element simulation software, employing the Edinburgh Elasto-Plastic Adhesion (EEPA) nonlinear elastic-plastic contact model. The tillage layer and plough sub-base layer underwent calibration through slump and uniaxial compression tests, respectively. Influential contact parameters affecting slump and axial pressure were identified through a Plackett–Burman test. The optimal contact parameter combinations for the discrete element model of the tillage layer and plough sub-base layer were determined via a quadratic rotational orthogonal test. The accuracy of the discrete element simulation model’s parameters for paddy field soils was further validated through a comparative analysis of the simulation test’s cone penetration and the field soil trench test. Results indicate that the Coefficient of Restitution, surface energy, Contact Plasticity Ratio, and Tensile Exp significantly influence slump (p < 0.05). Additionally, the Coefficient of Restitution, Contact Plasticity Ratio, coefficient of rolling friction, and Tangential Stiff Multiplier significantly impact axial pressure (p < 0.05). Optimal contact parameters for the plough layer were achieved with a particle recovery coefficient of 0.49, a surface energy of 18.52 J/m2, a plastic deformation ratio of 0.45, and a tensile strength of 3.74. For the plough subsoil layer, optimal contact parameters were a particle recovery coefficient of 0.47, a coefficient of interparticle kinetic friction of 0.32, a plastic deformation ratio of 0.49, and a tangential stiffness factor of 0.31. Results from the cone penetration test reveal no significant disparity in compactness between the actual experiment and the simulation test. The calibrated discrete element model’s contact parameters have been verified as accurate and reliable. The findings of this study offer valuable data references for understanding the dynamic characteristics of the walking wheel of the entire machinery in high-speed precision seeding in paddy fields.