Intimate Feelings Research Articles

To know you is to feel intimate with you: Felt knowledge is rooted in disclosure, solicitation, and intimacy

People desire and need to know their relationship partner, and evidence shows that they feel that they know their partner. How does this feeling of knowing one’s partner develop? In this study, we examined three behavioral sources of felt knowledge: partner-disclosure, self-disclosure, and information solicitation. We predicted that the three sources not only contribute to felt knowledge, but also to feelings of intimacy. Felt knowledge and intimacy should be initiated when close partners communicate personally relevant information to the other. They should thereby be mutually transformative: the more people feel they know their partner, the more they should feel intimate with the partner, and the more they feel intimate with the partner, the more they should feel they know their partner. Findings from a five-wave longitudinal study among married couples, revealed good support for model predictions: (1) behavioral sources of knowledge promoted felt knowledge, which, in turn, increased feelings of intimacy...

An Imperial Path to Modernity: Yoshino Sakuzō and a New Liberal Order in East Asia, 1905–1937 by Jung-Sun N. Han (review)

Reviewed by: An Imperial Path to Modernity: Yoshino Sakuzō and a New Liberal Order in East Asia, 1905–1937 by Jung-Sun N. Han Paul E. Dunscomb An Imperial Path to Modernity: Yoshino Sakuzō and a New Liberal Order in East Asia, 1905–1937. By Jung-Sun N. Han. 244 pages. Hardcover $39.95/£29.95/€36.00. Harvard University Asia Center, 2012. Some readers of Tanizaki Jun’ichirō’s 1924–1925 novel Naomi may find themselves frustrated, as I am, that while the protagonist, Jōji, freely shares his most intimate feelings regarding the woman who is the object of his desire and, indeed, obsessive [End Page 336] fascination, he seems utterly unwilling to share one of the most important and telling details of his life: What did he read? A Western-trained electrical engineer in his late twenties, Jōji epitomizes the success of bunmei kaika (Civilization and Enlightenment), a Meiji-period project of modernization that sought to earn a place for Japan and the Japanese among the leading nations of the day by bringing their state, society, and themselves up to suitable levels of “civilization” as defined by Western standards. These standards were, on the whole, liberal, focusing on rationalism, progress, and the critical role of the educated individual in actualizing modern values domestically and envisioning a nation-state that, properly constituted, performed this role internationally, with the combined result of bringing the benefits of modern civilization to all. In the domestic sphere, modern statehood appeared to require the establishment of constitutional government, which delineated the roles of citizens and of the state in pursuing its objectives. There was wide variation among these emerging modern states in terms of the accepted locus of sovereignty, the extent of rights to be granted to the people, and the curbs on state power that would be tolerated by the authorities, but the notion that some sort of representative, broadly democratic institutions were necessary in order for a state to claim a place among the civilized, advanced, and great nations of the day was not subject to serious challenge. This proposition was readily embraced in Japan. Internationally, this Western-defined modernity resulted in imperialism, a project that was also pursued by modern states worldwide, and in many different forms. For some nations, often latecomers to the process, imperialism was portrayed as the privilege of advanced nation-states. For the more successful imperial powers, however, it was more often described as the burden that such states must bear in responsibly discharging their duty to spread civilization globally. The level of control to be exercised over subject peoples also varied, from the more informal commercial imperialism favored by Great Britain to the more muscular pursuit of formal colonies as practiced by imperial Germany. According to Jung-Sun Han, author of An Imperial Path to Modernity: Yoshino Sakuzō and a New Liberal Order in East Asia, 1905–1937, “at the ideational level, imperialism was rationalized, facilitated, and legitimized in terms of ‘international laws’ designed to diffuse the Western social norms of ‘civilization,’ while continuously reproducing differentiation and inequalities among the peoples it incorporated” (p. 7). While Han does not make reference to Tanizaki’s Naomi, while reading the book under review it occurred to me that the novel’s character Jōji seems to serve as a representative end product of Japan’s project of modernity, and, moreover, to perform double duty as an avatar for the new middle class that arose out of Japan’s pursuit of the domestic portion of its modernization agenda. Han describes this middle class as “one of the most conspicuous yet least examined social formations in modern Japan,” noting it was “the civil servants, the salaried employees, and the intellectual elite and experts in government agencies, private corporations, and other specialized and [End Page 337] professional institutions” who served as “the active creators and aggressive consumers of the newly formulated Taishō democracy” (p. 6). I imagine, therefore, that Jōji would have been a regular reader of the journal Chūō kōron and would most likely have sympathized with the writings of one of its most distinctive voices—and the central figure in the book under review—Yoshino...

Liszt's final decade

Toward the end of his life Franz Liszt maintained extensive correspondence with two women who were at the time his closest confidantes, Carolyne von Sayn-Wittgenstein and Olga von Meyendorff. Liszt wrote regularly to these women, expressing his intimate feelings about personal and career events and his conflicted self-image as a celebrated performer but underappreciated composer. Absent a diary, the letters offer the most direct avenue into Liszt's psychein his final years. Liszt's Final Decade explores through these letters the mind and music of one of the nineteenth century's most popular musicians, providing insight into Liszt's melancholia in his last years and hisstruggle to gain recognition for his music yet avoid negative criticism. The exchange indicates that Liszt ultimately resolved his self-image through a personally constructed Christian moral philosophy that embraced positive resignation to suffering, compassionate love, and trust in a just reward to come. The book also examines how Liszt's sacred compositions unfold a paradigm of suffering that yields to joy and hope. Significantly, Liszt viewed these works, commonly overlooked today, as a major part of his compositional legacy. This volume thus challenges the idea of a single late Lisztian style and the notion that despair overwhelmed the composer in his final years. Dolores Pesce, Avis Blewett Professor of Music at Washington University in St. Louis, has published books and articles on medieval and Renaissance music theory, the medieval motet, Franz Liszt, and Edward MacDowell.

Factors affecting attitudes toward care of elderly mothers.

In this study, we aimed to examine the factors that affect people's attitudes toward parental care. Previous qualitative studies present several factors that affect the decision of adult children of whether to take care of elderly parents or send them to a nursing home when they become fragile and need daily help. In the present study, we included affection, filial obligation, sekentei (i.e., wanting to keep an appearance of taking care), and other factors presented in previous studies. In May 2001, we mailed a questionnaire to females in their 30s who live in an agricultural area of K. City, Saitama Prefecture in Japan. We asked the respondents whether they would take care of their mothers or mothers-in-law, or send the mothers to a nursing home when the mothers need 24-hour care in the near future. Logistic regression analysis revealed that filial obligation and sekentei affected attitude toward care in the case of a mother while affection did in the case of a mother-in-law. These results suggest that women who do not have intimate feelings towards their mothers-in-law may choose not be a caregiver. On the other hand, women may take care of their mothers, whatever feelings they have because of the blood-relation. Also it may be that in such a small agricultural area, sekentei affects people's conduct, even if it is a private matter, such as caring an elderly mother.

Understanding variability in adolescent women's sexually transmitted infection-related perceptions and behaviors associated with main sex partners.

It is not well understood whether characteristics of adolescent main partnerships differ categorically from one relationship to the next or whether observed differences in sexually transmitted infection (STI)-related perceptions and sexual behaviors between main partnerships results from a failure to capture variability within adolescent main partnerships. The objective of this study was to examine the extent to which female adolescents' STI-related feelings, perceptions, and sexual behavior associated with main sex partners varied over the course of their relationship. A cohort of adolescent women aged 16 to 19 years at baseline, recruited from health clinics or community venues, completed daily diaries on a Smartphone continuously for 18 months. Participants reported daily on their partner-specific feelings of closeness, trust, commitment, perceived risk for acquiring a sexually transmitted disease (PRSTD), perception of partner concurrency (PPC), and condom use for their main sexual partners. Relationships from 49 participants were used to examine variability over time in STI-related feelings, perceptions, and behavior. Overall, relationships were characterized by high levels of trust, closeness, and commitment and low levels of PPC, PRSTD, and condom use. However, for all but PRSTD, there was more variation (>50%) within than between relationships for each of these measures, although variability of PRSTD was high (47.1%). Residual variability for all perceptions and behaviors remained significant after controlling for trends over time. Diary data illustrate wide day-to-day fluctuations in feelings of intimacy, PPCs, PRSTDs, and condom use indicating that these are dynamic attributes of adolescent romantic relationships.

Who is the Hero in the Life of the Traumatized Patient? Reflections on Bodansky’s Work with Mrs. E

The vexed question of how to explain analytic success with traumatized patients like Bodansky’s Mrs. E is considered from a perspective on psychoanalytic history and the specific theory-buttressed assumptions and practices of earlier generations of analysts that led them to conclude that traumatized patients couldn’t be helped via psychoanalytic work. I then consider Mrs. E’s life with an organizing question, Who is its hero?, applying perspectives from Charles Dickens and from Fraiberg and colleagues’ work, and use these perspectives to question the theory-based assumption that Mrs. E must have somewhere had a good object experience to have a life. These perspectives allow contemplation of a saving forceful agency at Mrs. E’s core (perhaps one experienced by her as “animal”) that seems essential to understanding her successes in living. The success of her treatment in assisting her with building a life suggests that her analyst’s helping her with mirroring and, even more important, with mentalizing, contribute importantly to her life improvement. Some potential limitations of his approach to her are also implied in his account; in particular, his limited work with her intimate desires and feelings, both libidinal and aggressive.

Mutuality in caregiving: a literature review

Mutuality, understood as a feeling of intimacy and positive relationship between caregiver and care receiver, is gaining an increasing interest in the scientific arena in the light of socio-demographic change and the increase in chronic degenerative diseases. The purpose of this article is to carry out a critical analysis of the literature on mutuality in order to identify predictors and outcomes. A literature search was carried out the databases PubMed, CINAHL, PsycInfo, and ASSIA Sociological. Twenty (20) articles were selected. By analyzing critically all articles, emerges that mutuality is a key variable in the process of care giving and in mental and physical health of both caregiver and care-receiver. In the caregiver, high levels of mutuality are associated with less stress, depression and burden to a better quality of life and self perceived health; in patients high mutuality is able to speed up the recovery from the disease, to reduce anxiety and depression and to improve the quality of life. Future studies aimed at the study of this variable also in the Italian population could be of support in developing programs to improve quality of life of caregivers and care receiver.

Motivul muzicii şi al mării în proza lui Anton Holban

The purpose of the present article is to discuss two literary motifs that can be traced throughout Anton Holban’s prose works: music and the sea. Holban, who wrote also music reviews for newspapers, had a genuine passion for music, which is reflected in his novels and short stories. Music appears in Holban’s literature as the highest form of artistic expression, and, at the same time, as a special and unique code used by lovers to communicate with each other, which isolates them from other people. Music seems to be more important than a relationship with a woman and even than literary creation. It may become an obsession. Listening to music in solitude gives the narrator an opportunity to explore his inner world and to be himself. The sea means much more than a landscape in Holban’s works. Like music, it has a symbolic dimension, being for the protagonists a source of extatic, almost mistic experience, as well as a witness to their deepest and most intimate feelings. From philosophical point of view, the sea means infinity, eternal movement and perfection.

Overcoming prejudices in emancipatory education: the remaining group

The Remnant Group was one of working parties of the project "Phoenix: Challenge in the rebirth of subjective citizenship". The group consisted of young people who integrated a government educational institution, current called assistant philanthropic institution, in which they could not be members after their 18th birthday. Consequently, they had to return to the streets. Participating research was the methodology employed and interventions with these young people aimed at re-signifying their experiences which had been shaken by self-aggressive identifications. Debates tried to de-mystify biases linked to their social condition of poverty. The young people repeated in their activities the danger labels that society imposed upon them. The mediation of the dangerous social class concepts, accusation category and the internalization of social violence was undertaken. They became aware of the necessity of protecting themselves from society and the State apparatus. In our dialogues it was agreed that the manifestation of detailed intimate feelings was not allowed. Different procedures were used and the repeated themes consisted of social violence in its most diverse nuances. The most important difficulty comprised the management of the intensity of the consolidation of social stigmas internalized by the young people to whom were attributed the connotations of dangerousness and evilness.

숲의 주요 수종에 따른 이미지의 규명

We have researched the image of different forest species by asking those who use these forests how they feel when enjoying them for their various purposes. We surveyed five different forest areas, these were a pine forest a korean pine forest a cypress forest a broad leafed forest and a mixed forest. We asked 806 people how these forests made them feel and what they thought was the image of these forests. We offered them a choice of 18 pairs of adjectives to describe how they felt. We used the SD Scale and discovered 4 different factors. A feeling of comfort and freshness and a feeling of order and space. There was also a feeling of intimacy with nature. Each forest gave out its own feeling and image. comfort and freshness was felt by those in the pine forest, the korean pine forest, the broad leafed forest and the mixed forest. A Feeling of order and space was felt in the korean pine forest. Intimacy was felt in the pine forest, broad leafed forest and the mixed forest.

The Identity Dimension of the Yi-An Style: The Value System of Li Qingzhao

This article is devoted to revealing the identity dimension of the Yi-an style, i.e., the aggregate of the value system of Song poetess Li Qingzhao (1084–1155) becoming apparent in the idea and image content of her ci in such a way that her poems appear to be written by male authors. The empirical material for this research consists of 41 ci, whose authorship is beyond question according to most scientists. These poems were divided into three periods: Youth or Pre-marriage (1099–1101), Marriage (1101–1127), and After the fall of the dynasty and her husband’s death (1127–1155). A hypothesis was made, according to which Li Qingzhao’s works are characterized by traditionally “masculine” values, namely: a) the absolute primacy of scholarship and literary activities in the whole, and b) an emphasis on the transcendental, particularly on immaterial wealth. This hypothesis was tested by applying the chromatic scale to Li Qingzhao’s ci. Poems containing yellow, green, and black colors, and “achromic” ci, were analyzed. This allowed a demonstration of how her highly intimate feelings are embedded in general cosmological and ontological contexts. In particular, the yellow-golden spectrum of Li Qingzhao’s ci reveals the absolute priority of immaterial or intellectual wealth. A blue-green spectrum shows the process of understanding the Self, the value of her own identity, and striving for being, as remembered by performing the typically “male” activity of writing. Black reveals an emphasis on the transcendental, and the increasing number of “achromic” ci toward the end of her life was a strategy for Li Qingzhao to emphasize the process of understanding the self.

En quête de l’essentiel : la poésie dénudée chez Henri Bosco

Une approche de l’oeuvre poétique d’Henri Bosco, la moins connue de l’auteur, à travers un recueil de compositions brèves, Des nuages, des voix, des songes... nous dévoile une sorte de poésie dénudée, libre d’artifices dans sa thématique et dans son style, d’une apparente simplicité, qui nous transporte du monde visible et tangible de la nature qui l’entoure, vers l’intérieur de l’âme. C’est de là qu’émergent les sentiments les plus intimes, les rêves et les mystères incarnés dans l’imaginaire profond du moi du poète, résumé de la sagesse accumulée au cours de sa longue et prolifique existence, et dévoilés dans ces poèmes composés un an avant sa disparition.

Judging Performance, Performing Judgments: Race and Performance in Weimar Germany

The past has become more important than before. We are in search of authenticity. The crucial thing that the productive artist no longer in control, and hence the growth of importance of the reproductive artist. --Wilhelm Furtwangler ([1928] 1989: 31; emphasis in the original) In the summer of 1930, the pianist John concertized throughout Europe and astounded audiences with his vivid interpretations of a varied repertoire, ranging from Debussy and Stravinsky to Bach and Mozart. In Poland, the Kurjer Polski raved: Yesterday John played before a wild audience. What this great artist understands and brings [to the music] can only be appreciated still more by the expert. The present author, who has heard the great masters of the piano play and can be regarded as the quintessential critic has only this to say: John was better than them all. (1) In Budapest, the Magyarorszag reported, brings us great pleasure to report on the enormous success [enjoyed] by John Flaffith, who played the most difficult pieces with great technique and the most intimate feeling for the piano. But, as the article went on to say, what most astonished concertgoers is that Mister a Negro! [One] infused with the soul of Beethoven and Liszt. In short: a phenomenon who should serve as a model for the white piano player (Harrer 1930: 735). (2) Alas, Flaffiths success did not last. Just prior to an engagement before a packed house in Germany, was confronted by a crazed fellow artist who shouted want us white artists to be free of the black menace! before pulling out a revolver and shooting in the shoulder. As stagehands scurried to get medical attention, Flaffith's agent was heard to cry out No water, no water! It was not long before the sentiment behind this curious aversion was revealed, for no sooner had one stagehand put a wet washcloth on Flaffith's forehead than loud cries were heard throughout the hall: Flaffith no Negro, he white! (Harrer: 735). (3) Months later, found himself fully recovered but unable to secure even a single engagement. Eventually, he revealed to a German reporter the inspiration behind his successful, if short-lived, ruse: It was not my idea, but rather that of my wife ... After we had married I played in a bar in New York, which went rather badly. But I lost the position because my playing was too serious. Anny, who always gave me encouragement, said that I should try being a piano virtuoso. It came to nothing. A Negro film, which we saw together during this time, suddenly gave Anny the idea that I could try doing things as a Negro artist. The last of our savings brought us across the ocean. In the beginning I tried to concertize in several cities as a white pianist, but had no success. But if I appeared as a Negro, I found myself enthusiastically welcomed; in short: I was soon a true great known the world over. (Harrer 1930: 737) (4) The story likely fictional: no trace of John can be found in other contemporary sources. But its underlying claim--that musical performance has never been purely about the music itself but rather has found itself bound up in larger questions surrounding what performed, when and by whom--is a concern which loomed large in the minds of music critics of the interwar period. And yet, scholars of Weimar Germany have been surprisingly slow in turning their attention toward performance to see what it can tell us about the larger socio-historical context in which it produced. There a robust historiography outlining the culture wars fought over the nationalist inclinations and legacies of composers and the extent to which they and their music could be said to reflect or anticipate conservative, liberal, socialist, and nascent national-socialist ideals (on Handel, see Potter 2011. For Beethoven, see Dennis 1996. For a recent account of the Nazis' appropriation of Mozart, see Levi 2011). …

Shame and guilt in child protection social work: new interpretations and opportunities for practice

AbstractShame is an underexplored and misunderstood emotion. It can be described as an acute awareness of one's flawed and unworthy self. It is the primary social emotion and one of our most intimate feelings developed within the context of our family of origin, which can have a devastating effect on an individual and their relationships. Social workers are routinely faced with issues of shame as an intrinsic consequence of the matters with which social work deals and also as a result of how both families and workers experience the child protection process. This paper outlines the research on shame and guilt to argue for a re‐evaluation of the key challenges faced by child protection social workers. It is argued that shame experienced by parents and carers potentially plays a significant role in these challenges, while it may be argued that ‘guilt’ has had a bad press and may potentially play an important role in the successes. An argument is made for a shame‐reducing child protection social work practice with some key themes for practitioners to consider in their attempt to improve the accuracy of assessments and intervention.

O20.4 Daily Variation in Feelings of Intimacy Predict Incident STI Within a Prospective Cohort of Urban Adolescent Females

BackgroundPrevious work has illustrated daily variation in feelings of intimacy, perceptions of partner concurrency (PPC) and STD risk perception (PRSTD), indicating these are dynamic attributes within adolescent romantic relationships. Our...

Dreaming of You

This study examined the extent to which dreams of close others would predict subsequent waking experiences with those partners, suggesting a process for the effects of dreams parallel to findings on “priming” as observed in other contexts. Participants in committed relationships completed measures of attachment and relationship health (interdependence), followed by a 2-week diary of dream reports and interactions with their partners. Multilevel modeling results indicated (among other effects) that certain types of content (e.g., infidelity) and emotions (e.g., jealousy) in participants’ dream reports were associated with less intimate feelings and more conflict with their partners on subsequent days. These associations were unidirectional and they remained significant while controlling for trait attachment styles, overall relationship heath, and the previous day’s activity, thus identifying for the first time a unique and important role for dreams in affecting relationship behaviors.

Augmented stage support in ensemble performance using virtual acoustics technology

Perceptual evaluation of electronically varied acoustic conditions has been perfomed with 15 musicians in a chamber orchestra rehearsal. Using Virtual Acoustics Technology (VAT), a room impulse response based active acoustic enhancement system, four different acoustic conditions were presented to the musicians. Condition 1 was the natural room itself without the VAT system. Condition 2 had a moderate level of VAT enhancement with approximately 10% increased EDT value from the condition 1. Condition 3 duplicated the condition 2 except for another 10% rise of EDT, and condition 4 offered enhancement utilizing multiple early reflections IRs without extending the reverb time of the space. The conditions were presented to the ensemble in random order and the loudness of all four conditions was carefully matched within 1 dB variance. Evaluation results indicated that 65% of participating musicians prefered condition 4 and their preference was highly correlated with perceptual attributes such as “feeling of stage support,” “feeling of intimacy,” and “quality of reverberation.” The objective measurements also confirmed the improvements in stage acoustics support parameters (ST1 and ST2) in condition 4.

Tactile massage or healing touch: Caring touch for patients in emergency care – A qualitative study

AimThis study aimed to explore the patient's lived experience of receiving caring touch after sustaining an acute illness or disease while being cared for in a short-term emergency ward. BackgroundAdmissions to short-term emergency ward for an acute illness or disease is often associated with increased stress, anxiety and pain. The caring touch in focus in this study is tactile massage and healing touch. A complementary treatment of tactile massage or healing touch was offered to patients to complement their routine nursing care. MethodsThis study has a qualitative interpretive design that explored two complementary approaches.Twenty-five patients (16 women and 9 men) admitted to the short-term emergency ward for acute conditions agreed to participate in the study and were individually interviewed. Data were collected from between January and May 2011. Data was analysed using a phenomenological-hermeneutical method. ResultsThe patients’ lived experience indicated that caring touch resulted in an existential togetherness characterised by a nonverbal peacefulness, trust, consolation, safety, and a restoration of what it means to be a being human. However, some patients also expressed ambivalence towards caring touch. There also seemed to be a fine line between feelings of intimacy, sensuality, and sexuality, especially among the male patients. ConclusionIn the presence of an acute illness or disease, caring touch may provide trust and consolation for the patient's body and soul which may help to restore his or her integrity. The complexity of intimacy is an aspect that needs further study.

ABOUT GREETING TERMS IN JORDANIAN ARABIC

This paper presents novel classificatory differences between various greeting terms in Jordanian Arabic (JA). The two classifications include marked/unmarked and pure/context-dependent greetings. The paper also reviews the Islamic teachings in this respect, where we can find rich texts that specify the type of the greeting term, the significance of exchanging greetings, the importance of initiating a greeting and responding to a greeting and who should greet who. Furthermore, the paper provides a list of pure greetings terms, return greetings as well as the variants of both. Context-dependent greetings are those that are not pure greetings and can be used as greetings in particular condition. These terms include al-afjh ‘on health’ which is used in greeting a person performing some physical task; Gaw l-anmin ‘May Allah strengthen the winners.’ which is used in greeting a large group of people; and hanhum ‘May Allah bless you with your food.’ which is used in greeting people who are dining. Finally, the paper posited the situation under which greetings are dropped clarifying that some situations are predictable and -in some casesexcusable. These situations can be personal due to unfamiliarity or lack of intimate feelings between the potential greeters or institutionalized by the community as in happy or sad events where the initiator – overwhelmed by emotionsdrops the greeter to express what is urgent instead.

When low self-esteem encourages behaviors that risk rejection to increase interdependence: the role of relational self-construal [corrected

[Correction Notice: An Erratum for this article was reported in Vol 104(6) of Journal of Personality and Social Psychology (see record 2013-18890-002). The title of the article is incorrect.] Increasing interdependence in an intimate relationship requires engaging in behaviors that risk rejection, such as expressing affection and asking for support. Who takes such risks and who avoids them? Although several theoretical perspectives suggest that self-esteem plays a crucial role in shaping such behaviors, they can be used to make competing predictions regarding the direction of this effect. Six studies reconcile these contrasting predictions by demonstrating that the effects of self-esteem on behaviors that risk rejection to increase interdependence depend on relational self-construal-that is, the extent to which people define themselves by their close relationships. In Studies 1 and 2, participants were given the opportunity to disclose negative personal information (Study 1) and feelings of intimacy (Study 2) to their dating partners. In Study 3, married couples reported the extent to which they confided in one another. In Study 4, we manipulated self-esteem and relational self-construal, and participants reported their willingness to engage in behaviors that increase interdependence. In Studies 5 and 6, we manipulated the salience of interpersonal risk, and participants reported their willingness to engage in behaviors that risk rejection to increase interdependence. In all 6 studies, self-esteem was positively associated with behaviors that can increase interdependence among people low in relational self-construal but negatively associated with those behaviors among people high in relational self-construal. Accordingly, theoretical descriptions of the role of self-esteem in relationships will be most complete to the extent that they consider the degree to which people define themselves by their close relationships.