This performative piece, an enactment of lived feminism, acknowledges the privileges and explores the similarities and differences between three cis-gendered white women in different parts of the United Kingdom and how these aid and hinder collaboratively writing together. The piece was shared at the Autoethnography Special Interest Group at International Congress of Qualitative Inquiry (ICQI) in 2018. We had never written together before but had presented on the same Shame? panel at ICQI in 2017 convened by Alys Mendus that also included papers by Stacy Holman Jones and Anne Harris and a memorial to Sue Porter. There were similarities in terms of themes explored including sexuality and taboo. This was our starting point but it was not easy. We realized that difficulty within collaborative inquiry is rarely written about and published but is often the topic of conversation between academics. Perhaps feminism is our ability to stand together curious and alive to our nonshared experience with a commitment to not creating a shared perspective? To stay standing together, we could be stronger in these troubling times.