We present high resolution numerical simulations of the colliding wind system $\eta$ Carinae, showing accretion onto the secondary star close to periastron passage. Our hydrodynamical simulations include self gravity and radiative cooling. The smooth stellar winds collide and develop instabilities, mainly the non-linear thin shell instability, and form filaments and clumps. We find that a few days before periastron passage the dense filaments and clumps flow towards the secondary as a result of its gravitational attraction, and reach the zone where we inject the secondary wind. We run our simulations for the conventional stellar masses, $M_1=120 ~\rm{M_\odot}$ and $M_2=30 ~\rm{M_\odot}$, and for a high mass model, $M_1=170 ~\rm{M_\odot}$ and $M_2=80 ~\rm{M_\odot}$, that was proposed to better fit the history of giant eruptions. As expected, the simulations results show that the accretion processes is more pronounced for a more massive secondary star.