It is of fundamental interest to control light diffraction in discrete optical systems. However, photon hopping in discrete systems is dominated by the nearest-neighbor coupling, limiting the realization of nonlocal diffraction phenomena. Here, we generalize the discrete diffraction from spatial to the frequency domain using optical phase modulators. By inducing long-rang couplings in the frequency lattice through periodic modulation signals, we find the lattice band structure can be artificially engineered, giving rise to the realization of arbitrary frequency diffraction. Particularly, we create linear, bilinear and semicircular band structures using sawtooth, triangular and semicircular modulation waveforms and realize the directional, bidirectional, omnidirectional frequency diffraction as well as the spectral "superlens". We also revisit frequency discrete Talbot effect and generalize the allowed incident period to arbitrary integers through band structure engineering. Moreover, as the frequency transition also carries a wave vector mismatch, an effective electric field will emerge, through which we can realize frequency Bloch oscillations that manifest the effects of arbitrary spectral routing and self-imaging. The study paves a promising way towards versatile spectrum management for both optical communications and signal processing.