Acquisition of specific cell shapes and morphologies is a central component of cell fate transitions. Although signaling circuits and gene regulatory networks that regulate pluripotent stem cell differentiation have been intensely studied, how these networks are integrated in space and time with morphological transitions and mechanical deformations to control state transitions remains a fundamental open question. Here, we focus on two distinct models of pluripotency, primed pluripotent stem cells and pre-implantation inner cell mass cells of human embryos to discover that cell fate transitions associate with rapid changes in nuclear shape and volume which collectively alter the nuclear mechanophenotype. Mechanistic studies in human induced pluripotent stem cells further reveal that these phenotypical changes and the associated active fluctuations of the nuclear envelope arise from growth factor signaling-controlled changes in chromatin mechanics and cytoskeletal confinement. These collective mechano-osmotic changes trigger global transcriptional repression and a condensation-prone environment that primes chromatin for a cell fate transition by attenuating repression of differentiation genes. However, while this mechano-osmotic chromatin priming has the potential to accelerate fate transitions and differentiation, sustained biochemical signals are required for robust induction of specific lineages. Our findings uncover a critical mechanochemical feedback mechanism that integrates nuclear mechanics, shape and volume with biochemical signaling and chromatin state to control cell fate transition dynamics.