Being bullied in school is not of growing or just a rite of passage. Some children who endure bullying never get over the fear and the humiliation, according Mr. Barone. By working together, schools and parents can make going school an experience that students will enjoy, not dread. Almost everybody can tell a story or two about having once been victimized in school by a bully. Many people can discuss in detail the incidents surrounding the experience and can even remember the name of the bully and the grade level at which the trauma occurred. Few of us go through all the years of schooling unscathed. And while most of us get over the fear and the humiliation, some do not. Nathan Feris, a seventh-grader at DeKalb High School in DeKalb, Missouri, decided that enduring four years of taunting by other children, who called him chubby and walking dictionary, was more than enough. On 2 March 1987 Feris brought a gun school and fatally shot another student before turning the gun on himself in class. Classmates said that nobody really had anything against Nathan. He was just someone pick on, they said.(1) A set of parents in Japan have filed a 22-million-yen damage suit against the Tokyo metropolitan government and the parents of two alleged bullies, claiming that their 13-year-old son's suicide was caused by ijimi (bullying). The parents also claim that the school principal and several teachers not only failed intervene stop the harassment, but actually assisted the bullies in their activities. The boy hanged himself in a railway rest room and left a note naming two classmates as the cause of his anguish.(2) It seems that bullying has been a problem in schools for as long as there have been schools. Why is this so? Although not encouraged, bullying continues be a problem for many children because it is widely tolerated. Teachers, school officials, parents, and other students too often seem by as children are degraded, humiliated, beaten, and ridiculed. Left unchecked, bullying in school can lead tragic consequences akin the two cases mentioned above. Even when suicide or murder is not the outcome, bullying can leave lasting emotional and psychological scars on children. Furthermore, research has shown that bullying can extend across the generations: the children of bullies often become bullies themselves. Why, then, do school officials, teachers, and parents often appear take so little notice? One reason may be because many adults consider bullying be a normal part of growing up. Confronting a bully is considered one of the rites of passage for a boy. Unfortunately for the victim, the age-old advice stand up to the bully and fight back usually leads more violent bullying. Rarely does the bully back down. A second reason why bullying continues unabated might be that educators have become desensitized bullying and do not even see it. Thus they seldom report it. A third reason could be that the schools are overwhelmed by other issues and problems outside of education with which they must deal. And finally, schools may not want identify bullying as a problem because they do not have the resources address it. Scope of the Problem Students who are the victims of bullies and school officials who hold the power stop them have very different perceptions of the problem. This difference has hindered effective prevention efforts. I developed a survey that was administered in spring and summer of 1993 two groups in upstate New York. The first group consisted of 847 eighth-graders; the second group consisted of 110 counselors, teachers, and administrators in the same schools as the students. The survey contained the following definition of bullying: is a situation when a student or group of students is mean you over a long period of time (weeks or even months). Bullying can either be physical (hitting, kicking, and so on) or it can be verbal (threats, name calling, gossiping, or ignoring). …
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