The communicative competence of youth is considered from the standpoint of phenomenology, social reality, when the intersubjective interactions of actors determine the subjective picture of ideas about communication that is emerging in the mind. The key role of the processes of meaning formation in social communication and communicative competence is noted. The formation of personal and socio-cultural meanings of communication involves knowledge and values of communication, communication norms, communication skills and behaviors that determine the structure of communicative competence aimed at maintaining sociality and social ties. Since the formation of social reality is differentiated, and young people themselves as a social group are differentiated, the purpose of the article was to identify the links between the main differentiating features and manifestations of the communicative competence of young people. Differentiating demographic indicators are considered: gender, type of settlement, level of education, region of residence. Gender is considered as a leading differentiating feature. Measured indicators of communicative competence: meanings of communication, norms of communication, communication skills. The analysis showed the existence of links between differentiating features and manifestations of communicative competence: against the backdrop of the dominance of terminal values and their corresponding skills, combined with a focus on changing the norm of communication as the main characteristics in the structure of the communicative competence of the young people surveyed, it was revealed that rural boys and girls are more than urban, committed to stability in the norm of interaction; respondents with a complete general secondary education, as well as girls from federal centers, are the most pronounced carriers of the terminal values of communication. Young men and women of the Vologda region lead among other regions in their orientation towards the instrumental values of communication, the men of this region are the smallest in terms of the manifestation of a number of communication skills, including instrumental ones. These connections reflect both the expansion of the social reality and communicative competence of the surveyed youth due to its sociocultural differentiation, and indicate the presence of certain problems, both sociocultural and broader, which require discussion.