During research on a Teaching and Learning Research Initiative (TLRI) project entitled Key Learning Competencies across Place and Time: Kimihia te ara totika, hei oranga mo to ao, directed by Margaret Carr and Sally Peters at the University of Waikato, we researched evidence for, and developed theories about, relating to others. Relationships had always been a key concept for the teachers at our early childhood centre, and the TLRI project gave us an opportunity to contribute to discussions about the key competency relating to others (in the new school curriculum: Ministry of Education, 2007) in our place. Aratupu Preschool and Nursery is a community-based early childhood centre situated in Papanui, Christchurch. The centre is one of several services offered by the city's Methodist Mission alongside social work services, budgeting and food bank services, advocacy and aged care. Aratupu provides education and care for children aged 0-6 years and aims to meet the needs of our local community. Our centre is open from 8.30 am to 2.30 pm Monday to Friday, which reflects our commitment to our community, who are predominantly young, single-women-led whanau, with a government benefit as their main, or only, source of income. It is our aim to provide an environment where whanau feel valued and welcomed and where they can be supported in all aspects of their life. We want it to be a fun, safe and stimulating place where children can strengthen and acquire new dispositions that will support them in everything they do. The roll at Aratupu comprises approximately 50-60 percent Maori children, with the remainder consisting of Asian, Samoan, Cook Island and Pakeha children. The centre employs qualified early childhood teachers who focus on providing high-quality care and education for the children. Employing an out-of-ratio supervisor and a family support worker (social worker) allows teaching staff to focus on the children, while the supervisor and family support worker can support whanau. Our view of the child A particular commitment of Aratupu is for each child to be recognised for who they are, where they have come from and what they bring with them. We want our children to be empowered, so we take a strengths-based approach that focuses on children's abilities and how they relate to one another and support each other in their early childhood journey. A favourite saying for us at the centre is: We want children to be able to leave this centre, knowing who they are and being confident in standing up for themselves in future education systems and letting others know when their needs are not being met. We feel that this is an important goal for our children, as many have parents who have had not-so-great experiences within the education system. Our centre aims to be a positive educational place for the whole whanau. Our philosophy is strongly based on having the child at the centre of everything we do and think about. Every decision we make is based first on the child, then on the impact for those around them--meaning the whanau, other adults, environment, extended community etc. Enhancing a sense of belonging is the wallpaper of everything we do. We passionately believe that without a strong sense of belonging, children will not achieve their full potential--nothing else can happen without belonging. Relationships is also a key concept in everything we do in the centre, and how we do it. It is through relationships that we believe the child's identity is confirmed. Our aspiration is that the children develop identities as empowered children. Looking more closely at relating It was because of our existing emphasis on relationships and relating at the centre that we decided to explore these aspects--and the teaching and learning associated with these--more deeply through our involvement in this project. Although originally we used the term relationships, we soon moved to using the term relating to capture the concept we were exploring. …