The tuned viscous mass damper (TVMD) exhibits superior control effect and energy dissipation capability compared to the viscous damper (VD). Existing literature has primarily focused on the control of absolute acceleration response in structures by linear TVMD, with limited research on nonlinear damper for controlling structural performance and efficiency. This study proposes a methodology for determining the optimal parameters of linear TVMD. The closed-form solution of the nonlinear TVMD is derived through stochastic linearization based on the linear TVMD, aiming to minimize the damping ratio of TVMD by utilizing the damping enhancement effect of the system. For lightly damped structures, the closed-form solution remains a reliable method for accurately approximating TVMD design parameters. Compared to traditional fixed-point theory, the TVMD developed through the proposed methodology demonstrates superior control performance, especially in terms of absolute acceleration, with a smaller damping ratio and minimal deviation from the optimal state of the TVMD. Additionally, the study investigated the influence of the damping index on the optimal parameters and the efficacy of the TVMD in vibration control. It is observed that reducing the damping index can improve structural performance, particularly in long-period structures with small mass ratios, although it may reduce the efficiency of the TVMD. Notably, TVMDs with lower mass ratios maintain higher efficiency regardless of the structural natural period. The damping index does not affect the optimal frequency ratio or the mean square response. Ultimately, the effectiveness of the optimization method is displayed through the examination of response spectra following 22 real seismic events, showcasing its adaptability across various structural types. The comparison of the root-mean-square response between the VD and TVMD across different periods shows consistent results, with a maximum deviation of only 10%. The TVMD is highly effective at regulating the structural response, excelling particularly in controlling the absolute acceleration of long-period structures, where it reduces maximum absolute acceleration by 20% more than displacement. The proposed exact solution rapidly and precisely identifies the design parameters of nonlinear TVMD by the desired specifications, thereby offering theoretical guidance for practical engineering applications.