H©k»VOWSVV®H®S»vföHSVV®l-KSVs» ViS)HgVS9V®H®S» *©H«Hg»H©>»«HgJMS^ «HSW®?»» «"©H®*"»«SSHÖ)^«SSH®^«"'©H©''»«N®WS^«"«©H©*' iS2)H®^ «*©?? She was old when I first remembered her and we all called her Mom, that is at least did her children, grandchildren and beyond. To others, she was Aunt Nora. She was both blood kin and communal kin. Kin and kindness are from the same root word and she lived that inter relatedness. She was fiercely independent and prided herself on her ability for self sufficiency. She lived in a little three roomed house right near her oldest daughters big house as long as I had remembered. She had been married twice, outliving both, yet she had never been far from where she spent most of her life. I sometimes become confused with my history line of her, acknowledging early parts of her life before I possibly could have—perhaps re-ordering much of her past through my own present thinking and hearing of her. As much as she denied a need, she did allow one of her grandchildren to often stay over night just to satisfy her own children's peace of mind. Over the years, I reckon that all of us took turns staying with Mom. I was about twelve years old, the winter and spring that I was elected to spend weekday evenings with her; having weekends to go home, since my aunt would be back from teaching in another county. Her little house had all the snugness that a woodland critter's warren would have. Her sleeping quarters doubled as the main sitting room, with the bed in one corner, a dresser along the next wall, the other two corners filled with the great old wardrobe and the pot bellied stove. Ah! that little old Burnside stove: Glowing belly, innards hot with fossiled blacknessfrom earths innards. Radiating warmth and orangeness to darkened corners. 28 Before retiring for the night we had to put in a load of fine coal, pack it down with the shovel and cover slightly with ashes if we expected heat and fire till morning. The big old wardrobe reached nearly to the ceiling, that wasn't so high because the ceilings were low, yet, that whole corner looms large in my remembrances because it was there that Mom concealed all of her treasures: Bundled memories faded inks bits ofquiltlets unstitched. Images ofthe past, giftsforfuture givings. Family; Bibles with recorded genealogies tracing important ancestors Warm woolen winter stockings. I remember her dresser top. She always lived with her few materialisms about her. Every gift from children and kin, no matter how small, was displayed with her kindness. There might have been an appearance of clutteredness, yet, she always knew where things of need could be found: Winters long evenings howled against her snugness as she stitched "flower gardens" and "double wedding rings" ten neat threadings to the inch. Quiltingframes consuming parlor space while herfavorite bobtailed cat, kittened in a box offlower garden prints "Hand me that pencil with the string tied around it, it's there with the needles and thread on the dresser" "Look on the Raymonds calendar and see what sign we're in" Things that mattered, fan shaped patterns and spring garden plannings. The room I slept in doubled as the dining area. But it was the old round table that caught your attention. Mom was a real cook: Remembered days past when hungry loggers atefrom her cooking. Thinking I, a child would also be so famished. 29 Breakfast: cereal, eggs, meat, and huge biscuits, fruit, sassafras tea when the month name had an r in it. "You haven't touched a thing on your plate" gentle coaxing. Her tiny kitchen was almost totally consumed by the huge old cook stove. The tea kettle sang, merrily, no escape from the hickory fire. Mom's presence allowed few secrets; she had a habit of whisper talking her thoughts, if you listened closely you knew what she was thinking. She read letters and her Bible in the same manner : "Now consider the lilies ofthe field. . . " She loved flowers and planted many. When she was a...
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