ABSTRACT This article explores the roles and impact of XR technologies in the creation and perception of performances. The main methodology is a conversation between Anneleen Swillen, Guus Vandeweerd and Ine Vanoeveren in VRChat. As researchers in the arts, they investigate the expansive possibilities of XR performances, each offering insights from their respective perspectives in jewellery, graphic design, and music. The text commences with an introduction to their performative project ‘Mirrored Dwellers’, brought into relation with subjects such as a sense of wonder and virtual embodiment. Subsequently, the text features a conversation in which the authors delve into the influence of VR on audience experience and participation, the roles of AI in artistic practice, and how XR performances and digital media may contribute to a more inclusive artistic landscape. Drawing from their research, the authors discuss these themes in connection with a key concept introduced in the text: ‘breaking the fifth wall’, a proposition by Vanoeveren aiming to effectively merge the physical and digital realms. By examining perspectives and challenges faced by performers and audiences alike, this conversation provides insights into the distinctive experiences and complexities encountered when embodying avatars, immersing oneself in virtual realms and co-creating with AI.