Many creative art therapists have called for a greater awareness in our profession of social injustice and have cautioned against the invisibility of social privilege: be it by race, gender, sexual orientation or any other means. They have called for institutions to be more vigilant in including awareness of the unconscious nature of such prejudices in their art therapy training programmes and they have called on individual therapists to be more self-reflective in their practices. The author offers a response to this call and self-reflects on her own practice. She uses a series of case studies with LGBTQI clients to explore how questioning dominant narratives helped her respond more effectively to her clients' needs. The author challenges the phallocentric perception of the vagina as a hole and deconstructs the active-passive power dynamic so often attributed to penetrative sex. The author wishes to demonstrate how, despite her own LGBTQI identity, as a person who grew up within a heterosexual dominant narrative, she nevertheless introjected its values: the therapist's difficulty in negotiating this narrative can limit the potential space within the setting in terms of meaning and be detrimental to the client.