One of the reasons that Susan Okin’s scholarship commands respect in our field is that it exhibits her commitment to—and talent for—constructive interpretation, charitable criticism, and a willingness to build on the insights and good arguments of others. These reflections try to honor those commitments while exploring Okin’s own views on one of the themes of longest concern to her: the constraints of justice on socialization of women in the family and by other nonstate agents. Her close reading of the arguments of others, combined with her far too early and unexpected death, leave us with several interpretations of what might be her own considered views. Okin’s use of the insights of Mary Wollstonecraft, J. S. Mill, and John Rawls illustrate the challenge. One of Mary Wollstonecraft’s and J. S. Mill’s concerns that Susan Okin explicitly shared was the injustice of socialization of women to oppressive gender roles. 1 Together with other “constructive” feminist critics she objected to Rawls’s theory of justice as fairness, and to Political Liberalism on this count. Rawls addressed some of these issues, but not even to his own satisfaction. One of Okin’s very last completed papers criticized Rawls’s response. 2 The focus of this paper is one particular and problematic kind of gendered socialization that creates tensions between freedom of religion on the one hand, and equality of men and women on the other. What are we to think of the inculcation of religious or philosophical conceptions of the good that affect aspirations? In particular, what should liberal states do about the religious ideals and cultural practices that appear to stunt women’s actual choices of careers and life plans, and that even seem to hinder their exit from these communities of faith? Surely it will not do to dismiss such concerns as belonging to the “private” rather than the “public” realm, and hence beyond justice. Okin explicitly warned against giving undue respect to cultural groups under the guise of “multiculturalism” when the internal culture of a group socializes boys and girls toward roles they cannot easily select away even if exit is formally available. Respect for minorities can easily stop being part of the solution for a more just society, and become part of the problem. Section 1 situates this issue within Okin’s broader engagement with Rawls’s theory, section 2 identifies two different accounts of her own normative theory: one based on the value of autonomy, the other on the importance of nondomina