Observations of Inequality between Female and Male Sexual Pleasure: ‘Good Enough’ Vs ‘Ideal’ Expectations

Abstract

I pose a question for the readers. If I have a vulva, am I ‘hard work’, and is my orgasm ‘less important’ than that of a penis owner? I hope that for most, the answer is no, of course not. If you are a vulva owner who can confidently pronounce this, well done you. However, in my practice I commonly observe cognitive dissonance. If our sexual pleasure is equal, why have I bore witness to female clients disproportionately dismissing their orgasms in comparison to their male counterparts? Cue the broken record of female pleasure… “It’s taking a while, don’t worry about me”. The orgasm gap grows.