Migration and making of non-heteronormative households and families: lived experiences of cisgender women partners of trans men in Bengaluru

Abstract

Abstract The lived experiences of cisgender women partners of trans men are rarely a subject of concern, even for sexuality studies in India. This article looks into the lived experiences of cisgender-identified female partners of trans men who migrated to Bengaluru city from different parts of south India to live with their trans men partners. Despite constant opposition and threats from their natal families, these women decided to relocate to Bengaluru along with their trans men partners. Bengaluru-based Non-Governmental Organizations (NGOs) working on gender and sexual minorities helped them migrate and settle in Bengaluru. The queer and trans community in Bengaluru also helped them deal with the challenges post-migration. Post-migration, these women formed households and families along with their trans men partners. This study uses Pfeffer’s conceptualization of ‘normative resistance’ and ‘inventive pragmatism’ to elucidate how, post- migration, the women and their trans men partners strategically resisted and accessed social structure/institutions to receive social recognition and escape public stigma and violence. The study also shows that inegalitarian emotional and household division of labour exists between the women and their trans men partners. Even as the women try to naturalize them, they were not passive receptors and have learned to strategize their roles in the household realm. Simultaneously, the article also shows that the space created by the NGOs and trans-civic networks in the city has helped these women form a strong community consciousness and forge support system that gives them the confidence to live with their trans men partners.