Reproductive success is often highly skewed in animal populations. Yet the processes leading to this are not always clear. Similarly, connections in animal social networks are often nonrandomly distributed, with some individuals with many connections and others with few, yet whether there are simple explanations for this pattern has not been determined. Numerous social interactions involve dyads embedded within a wider network. As a result, it may be possible to model which individuals accumulate social interactions through a more general understanding of the social network's structure, and how this structure changes over time. We analysed fighting and mating interactions across the breeding season in a population of wild field crickets under surveillance from a network of video cameras. We fitted stochastic actor-oriented models to determine the dynamic process by which networks of cricket fighting and mating interactions form, and how they co-influence each other. We found crickets tended to fight those in close spatial proximity to them and those possessing a mutual connection in the fighting network, and heavier crickets fought more often. We also found that crickets that mated with many others tended to fight less in the following time period. This demonstrates that a mixture of spatial constraints, characteristics of individuals and characteristics of the immediate social environment are key for determining social interactions. The mating interaction network required very few parameters to understand its growth and thus its structure; only homophily by mating success was required to simulate the skew of mating interactions seen in this population. This demonstrates that relatively simple, but dynamic, processes can give highly skewed distributions of mating success. • Social network connections and patterns of mating success are both strongly skewed. • We modelled dynamic social (fighting) and mating networks in wild crickets. • The fighting network was influenced by proximity, sex, mass and mutual connections. • Only positive assortment by mating success was required to model the mating network. • In many populations, simple, dynamic processes may explain strong skews in fitness.