MiriamFriend, Mentor, Scholar, and Teacher Sarita Rai (bio) I met Miriam at the University of Hawai‘i at Mānoa in 1995 when she was appointed as the faculty resident director for the London study abroad program. Later, when she was the honors director in 1998, we collaborated to implement a joint student recruitment program to persuade Hawai‘i high school seniors (public and private) to attend UH Mānoa and to make it their “choice” university. This way, as freshmen they could take specialized classes in the honors program and also go abroad. I write about her personal statement for the London resident directorship because it resonates with the same type of mentorship and friendship she gave me. She states, “a semester abroad will be successful if its participants ‘take part in’ and are ‘engaged in’ all things the program can offer. But it will be an experience that participants will cherish for the rest of their lives, if ‘cooperating’ and ‘lending a hand’ lead them to form a learning and experiential community that involves partnership.” Within this partnership she saw herself as “cooperating, lending a hand, and engaging” her students so they would excel in learning and experiencing their term abroad. To demonstrate the outcome, I take the liberty of quoting some of her students’ writings. These are samples of tributes to Miriam Fuchs: “thanks for being such a great teacher . . . my writing has improved,” “you opened my eyes to literature in a whole new way,” and “dear Dr. Fuchs, I will always remember my time in London. You are an inseparable part of that memory. You gave us all guidance and support, asking nothing in return. Thank you.” This was the nature of her mentorship that I experienced as well, and I cherish her role in my life. She asked for nothing in return. Somehow, we transitioned from the beginnings of a professional relationship to one of deep and enduring friendship. She was a mentor to me in every step of my life. Miriam insisted on reviewing my promotion application dossier, and acquired a deep knowledge and understanding of the study abroad programs and my job responsibilities. She would always remark that I “had the worst job as a faculty member of the University of Hawai‘i.” On another note, with her urging, we embarked on a journey to coedit Study Abroad: Traditions and New Directions (2019). When she had writer’s block she would have tantrums, and I would just sit, listen, and watch her. This is why she would always call me an “easy friend.” I, on the [End Page 151] other hand, would stop working on the book for long periods of time—and she would guilt me into going back to the project. She was resilient and never gave up on me. Together we wrote and published, and we complemented one another in the relationship that formed. She would listen to one of my ideas and go off on a tangent that had no bearing on the original thought. She spent a great deal of time reading on study abroad topics and somehow had the patience in writing and rewriting, over and over again, till the piece was just perfect. As a political scientist, I had radical views and opinions, but she had the wisdom to know that to get published I needed to be neutral and noncontroversial. She, of course, was correct, so I always agreed with her in the end. I had said “let’s have lunch,” and never followed up. Three months later, I found out that she had her cancer surgery and treatment, and I had missed it all. It taught me to never put off anything if you want to do something. I still hear her saying, “I don’t want to talk about it,” when she didn’t want to update me about her health. We also ignored each other and hardly talked on the phone when in Hawai‘i. She knew she could count on me, so she never worried when I was not traveling. However, she would worry and stress whenever I was out of the country, and even made sure that we talked...
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