Previous geodynamic models of continental collision show that the behavior of the lithosphere can be strongly influenced by the presence of surface erosion. That said, absent from these investigations are the effects of sediment deposition. We quantitatively investigate this process using thermal‐mechanical numerical experiments of the coupled processes of tectonic deformation and crustal mass flux. The models demonstrate that the inclusion of the effects of sediment deposition can change the style of deformation of the crust and consequently, the evolution of the underlying deforming mantle lithosphere. In the absence of sediment deposition, the early stages of collision are accommodated by subduction of lower crust and mantle lithosphere along a discrete shear zone beneath the overriding plate. Following this initial stage of subduction, the subducting lower crust and mantle lithosphere retreat from the collision zone, permitting the sub‐lithospheric mantle to upwell and come into contact with the thickened upper crust. When sediment deposition is imposed subduction‐like consumption of the subducting plate remains stable. The presence of sediment deposition introduces a negative Vy‐component in the overriding plate in the area adjacent to the collisional zone. The negative Vy‐component leads to a greater degree of coupling between the colliding continental plates and decoupling of the overriding upper crust and lower crust/mantle lithosphere. The results demonstrate the first quantitative insights into the feedback between surface deposition and tectonics.