As is the tradition for Jewish boys, my sons had barmitzvahs when they turned 13. They underwent this rite of passage, which has happened in some form for around 700 years. In preparation, my sons learned to read the Hebrew language, learned passages from the Torah and its commentary and attended weekly classes and Saturday services to learn about traditions and practices. On their big days in front of family, friends and the broader community in the synagogue, they recited the week's Torah reading, participated in the service and explained their views on the readings' relevance to society. My first son related what he read to his childhood in Alice Springs and his early observations of social disparity. In the evening, we had a party and they gave less formal speeches. A coming of age ceremony in early adolescence is far from unique to Judaism, with around half of the world's ethnographically recorded societies in 1980 having ceremonies meeting a strict definition for initiation at this life point.1 In some cultures without formal ceremonies, there is a trend now to construct such events, filling a gap some feel to be missing in secular communities.2 For such practices to be so widespread, they must have some benefit. This paper briefly describes benefits to culture and community, individual and parents. The greatest gains of coming of age ceremonies are perhaps for the community, ahead of individual and family gain. Van Gennep noted that all rites of passage involve expression of values important to that society, theorising that rites of passage protect society from the whim of the individual, while ensuring continuity of knowledge and behaviour.3 Planned participation in services and ceremonies may be the first impetus for a child to be sent to learn about the religion or language,4 thus driving transmission of culture to the next generation. Not only are elements of culture transmitted and perpetuated,5 but in a prosocial environment participants and observers are drawn together with a sense of identity and community.6 Participation in such rituals can contribute significantly to what we call social capital.7 Identity formation is a key task of adolescence, whereby a young person needs to work out who they are, what they believe in and how they will present themselves to others. This can be described as the process by which a young person becomes ready for ‘social membership’ of society.8 To this end, a basic understanding of their family, culture and the history of both is helpful. The process of learning about traditions, language, rites and ceremonies and then participating in them serves this developmental task. In most barmitzvahs, individuals are given the opportunity to make a speech, enabling them to make a public statement about who they are and what they believe.4 Such public demonstration helps an adolescent to crystallise their understanding of who they are at that point in time. The performance aspect of coming of age ceremonies communicates much to all observers. In some societies, it may signal the point of physical maturity whereby the young person is themselves ready for childbearing, or that they are ready to contribute to physical tasks such as hunting, or to participate in other forms of communal labour. It can signal to all that an adolescent is ready to assume a useful role in the community as an individual, not just as someone else's child. This author's experience suggests that perhaps an adolescent's own parents need to witness these signals more than do others. It is no coincidence that so many cultures have a coming of age ceremony at the onset of adolescence. Puberty demarcates physical change between childhood and adulthood, with concomitant fertility, growth, physical strength and endurance all denoting increased abilities and potential usefulness to society. Rituals and ceremonies have an important place in signalling an adolescent's new status to the community, the individual and to their parents.
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