Scrutiny regimes in some Australian parliaments require consideration of human rights impacts of proposed legislation, but routinely ignore gendered impacts of legislation, particularly those relating to alcohol and other drugs. Where women's voices are heard, they are often only listened to according to stereotypes. Drawing on Anne Summers’ work on stereotypes of Australian women, an analysis of reports and hearing transcripts from major parliamentary inquiries into drug law reform, and in-depth interviews with those involved in parliamentary human rights scrutiny, we argue that parliamentary scrutiny regimes perpetuate paternalistic accounts of women to be pitied or punished: the ‘mournful mother’ whose child is affected by alcohol or other drugs and needs to be heard, and the ‘damaged damsel’ who is themselves affected by alcohol or other drugs and needs to be protected. This raises the question: are women listened to during parliamentary scrutiny processes or simply talked about in stereotypical ways?