Learning specific systems theory concepts can be challenging for marriage and family therapy students and trainees due to the abstract nature of these concepts. Experiential teaching strategies, such as using reality television programmes in the classroom, can help students to learn and apply these concepts. Because of the familiarity many students have with reality television, this medium can lessen the barriers to engagement that can arise from other forms of media. In this article, we discuss how to incorporate reality television shows into the classroom as one way to increase engagement and learning of systemic concepts, specifically those related to structural family therapy. We discuss a way to teach systems theory based on reality television either through an in‐class activity or assessment of learning. We also consider the ethical concerns about using such media in family therapy training. We conclude with tips for facilitators and student feedback.Practitioner points Systemic concepts can be abstract and difficult for MFT trainees to understand Experiential learning can provide opportunities for deeper learning through application Integrating reality television into MFT training can be an accessible and enjoyable way for trainees to deepen their learning of systems concepts Using reality television in teaching, both to demonstrate concepts and assess learning, can improve students’ understanding and application of systems concepts