Single-pass transmembrane proteins neuroligin (NL) and neurexin (NRX) constitute a pair of synaptic adhesion molecules (SAMs) that are essential for the formation of functional synapses. Binding affinities vary by ∼ 1000 folds between arrays of NL and NRX subtypes, which contribute to chemical and spatial specificities. Current structures are obtained with truncated extracellular domains of NL and NRX and are limited to the higher-affinity NL1/4-NRX complexes. How NL-NRX interaction leads to functional synapses remains unknown. Here we report structures of full-length NL2 alone, and in complex with NRX1β in several conformations, which has the lowest affinity among major NL-NRX subtypes. We show how conformational flexibilities may help in adapting local membrane geometry, and reveal mechanisms underlying variations in NL-NRX affinities modulation. We further show that, despite lower affinity, NL2-NRX1β interaction alone is capable of tethering different lipid membranes in total reconstitution, and that NL2 and NRX1β cluster at inter-cellular junctions without the need of other synaptic components. In addition, NL2 combines with the master post-synaptic scaffolding protein gephyrin and clusters neurotransmitter receptors at cellular membrane. These findings suggest dual roles of NL2 - NRX1β interaction - both as mechanical tether, and as signaling receptors, to ensure correct spatial and chemical coordination between two cells to generate function synapses.