On the basis of the proposition that love promotes commitment, the authors predicted that love would motivate approach, have a distinct signal, and correlate with commitment-enhancing processes when relationships are threatened. The authors studied romantic partners and adolescent opposite-sex friends during interactions that elicited love and threatened the bond. As expected, the experience of love correlated with approach-related states (desire, sympathy). Providing evidence for a nonverbal display of love, four affiliation cues (head nods, Duchenne smiles, gesticulation, forward leans) correlated with self-reports and partner estimates of love. Finally, the experience and display of love correlated with commitment-enhancing processes (e.g., constructive conflict resolution, perceived trust) when the relationship was threatened. Discussion focused on love, positive emotion, and relationships. Things base and vile, holding no quantity, Love can transform to form and dignity, Love looks not with the eyes, but with the mind, And therefore is winged Cupid painted blind. —William Shakespeare, A Midsummer Night's Dream In Shakespeare's reflection on love, one finds a poignant truth that resonates with experience: In transforming the mundane into the sublime, love can seem blind, irrational, and disconnected from what seems to be true and real. This observation dovetails with our ensuing theoretical analysis of the momentary experience of love. Yet we also take exception with what the great bard has to say about this emotion. Unlike Shakespeare, we contend that people also see love with their eyes; that love has a physical side that is evident in movements of the face and the body that prompt the mind's more sublime operations. More specifically, we propose that the momentary experience of love helps intimate partners remain committed to one another (e.g., Frank, 1988; Steinberg, 1986). This treatment of love as a commitment device leads to the following hypotheses. In terms of the experience of love, we posited that love would correlate with approach-related states. In terms of the display of love, we expected that the experience of love would be encoded in a distinct
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