Review of Lost and Found: The Adoption Experience. 3rd ed. By Betty Jean Lifton. Ann Arbor: U of Michigan P, 2009. 330 pp. Jill R. Deans The 2009 reissue of Lost & Found, first published in 1979, is a testament to the significance and the staying power of the book’s author, Betty Jean Lifton. One of the original voices of what is now identified as the “Adoption Liberation Movement”1 of the 1970s, Lifton advocated for access to birth records based on the adoptee’s apparent and sometimes overwhelming need to know his or her origins in order to thrive. In 1975, she chronicled her own probing search for answers in her memoir, Twice Born (reissued by St. Martin’s in 1998). Lifton, who is married to psychoanalyst Robert Jay Lifton, went on to become herself a psychotherapist, and her understanding of the nuances of the psychology of adoption is already apparent in Lost & Found. She expands on this psychological dimension in her later book, Journey of the Adopted Self (1994). In addition, she is author of several children’s books, a biography of Janusz Korczak, Polish children’s advocate and victim of the Holocaust, among many other interdisciplinary contributions that revolve in one way or another around displacement and the search for identity. AllofthesewritingsbenefitfromLifton’sprobingintellectandliterary sensibilities. In Twice Born, she describes transferring to Barnard where she found “real sisters who spoke my language,” who read poetry and wrote plays together (38). Unfortunately, their bonding over authors and ideas stopped short at the subject of adoption. This didn’t stop Lifton later from recognizing her own story for the drama it invariably was. While the rest of Twice Born explores the author’s personal transformation as she engages in the search for her origins and her biological parents, Lost and Found represents Lifton’s informed critical voice, stepping back to make sense of the adoption experience. LostandFounddependslargelyonthevoicesofdozensofindividuals— adoptees, birth parents, adoptive parents, adoption professionals—who have shared their stories with Lifton. Each vignette contains the code for unlocking the mysteries of adoption. Lifton’s project is to begin deciphering this code. Her own penchant for metaphors and her Adoption & Culture 2 (2009) 270 understanding of adoption as a practice dependent upon language and “playing the game” enables her to weave together countless threads of narrative into a rich explanation of the many challenges and intricacies of the adoption experience. Nearly every case is qualified as “individual,” yet there is something in common born from the fact that all of these experiences emerge from an era of sealed birth records. The secrecy underpinning this institutional practice of sealing records is ripe for cultural critics who can read between the lines. Lifton is one such critic and she invites those who likewise appreciate irony and a good plot twist, who can laugh as much as be appalled by the kind of deception practiced in sealed-record adoption, to participate in the unraveling of culturally-sanctioned lies. As adoptee “Karla” illustrates: “Two other people [at a dinner party] turned out to be adopted, and we began talking about the circumstances. We each said our parents were killed in a car crash. Suddenly the absurdity hit us. We burst out laughing. It was then I knew I had to learn the truth of what happened” (83). Finding the “truth” is the tricky part, for even after the records are pried open, adoptees realize that they are still part of a narrative, only now they become authors of their own complicated lives. Of course adoption has changed a lot since 1979, namely in terms of the hard-won openness that Lifton and others have promoted. More and more states allow adult adoptees access to their birth records and some level of openness in adoption is fast becoming standard in both public and private domestic adoption. The “adoption experience” that Lifton describes in this book is still relevant, she argues, not only for remaining sealed-record adoptees, including the new wave of international adoptees, but also for those “brave new babies” born through the use of reproductive technologies that once again shroud origins in secrecy. Lost and Found was first updated in 1988 to include this perspective and...
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