Cable-stayed bridges with short piers are susceptible to becoming the structural weak link in seismic resistance during strong earthquakes. Traditional lateral restraint systems, such as fixed and sliding bearing systems, may impose substantial lateral forces and displacement demands, affecting the entire bridge's seismic safety. A butterfly-shaped steel plate damper has been developed and integrated into a lateral energy dissipation system along with elastoplastic cables to address this. Given the significant computational challenges and the complexity of identifying the optimal parameters for the energy dissipation system, this paper combines the probabilistic seismic demand model (PSDM) with the response surface method (RSM) to propose the seismic vulnerability fitting optimization method (SVFOM). Based on SVFOM, utilizing a central composite design (CCD), 17 analysis scenarios that account for the parameter variations of the lateral energy dissipation system are established. By developing response surface functions for bearing damage (ys) and pier damage (yp) through the seismic response fitting of the structure across all scenarios, we determined the optimal parameters for the lateral energy dissipation system to minimize damage to both bearings and piers. The finite element model validation analysis, which demonstrated significant reductions in pier displacement and the probability of bearing damage, confirms the effectiveness of the SVFOM. Optimized parameters showed that the new lateral energy dissipation system can significantly enhance the lateral seismic performance of cable-stayed bridges with short piers. Compared to scenarios without energy dissipation and with lateral sliding bearings, they demonstrated that this optimized system reduces the relative displacement of the piers and girders by 56 % and the probability of complete bearing failure by 87 % while maintaining pier damage within acceptable limits. This optimized system offers a valuable reference for the seismic design of similar bridge structures.