For multivariate non-Gaussian involving copulas, likelihood inference is dominated by the data in the middle, and fitted models might not be very good for joint tail inference, such as assessing the strength of tail dependence. When preliminary data and likelihood analysis suggest asymmetric tail dependence, a method is proposed to improve extreme value inferences based on the joint lower and upper tails. A prior that uses previous information on tail dependence can be used in combination with the likelihood. With the combination of the prior and the likelihood (which in practice has some degree of misspecification) to obtain a tilted log-likelihood, inferences with suitably transformed parameters can be based on Bayesian computing methods or with numerical optimization of the tilted log-likelihood to obtain the posterior mode and Hessian at this mode.