The Asabano of Papua New Guinea treat mementos of deceased companions in several ways. Retention, destruction, and decay through exposure are analysed here in terms of motivational agency. The particular strategy adopted by survivors depends on pragmatic and sentimental value, current emotional state, and desired memory of the relationship. Curation corresponds with the desire to retain a cherished memory, while destruction correlates with expunging a painful memory. The speed with which a memento is destroyed reflects the rate at which one hopes to forget.