With the cross-fertilization development of automatic control technology, electronic science and technology, and wireless communication technology, a single filter is no longer able to solve the fault problem of the control system and communication system simultaneously and in a balanced manner. In this paper, we design a bidirectional robust fault-tolerant H∞ non-sensitive compensation filter controller based on the robust adaptive fault-tolerant control algorithm, and further optimize the fault-tolerance correction factor and robust adaptive factor by the LMI (Linear-Matrix-Inequation) method under the regulation of the feedback matrix K, so that the system estimation error can converge to zero asymptotically. It can simultaneously solve the optimization problems of unknown faults (including external disturbances, partial failure of internal actuators, and random interruptions) of the self-assembling node and the acquisition of SNR (Signal-Noise-Ratio) by wireless self-assembling nodes. The simulation results show that the system eventually tends to be asymptotically stable in all performance metrics with feedback adjustment under the designed filter controller, and the estimation error asymptotically tends to zero. The robustness and fault tolerance performance indicators are good against external disturbances and internal actuator failure of the wireless self-assembling network node. The control rate of the network system all increases significantly as the total feedback constraint rate of the system increases, allowing the system to eventually obtain the optimal SNR. The experimental results show that the network nodes of the amorphous flat wireless air-to-ground self-organizing network system can change flexibly and adaptively with the change of scenes, and the wireless communication distance between the network nodes is relatively improved by 86.36%, 110%, and 79.91%, and the loop success rate appears to be stable fluctuation interval, which can greatly improve the survival rate of the self-organizing network nodes. This paper is of great research significance for further realizing the long-spacing transmission of self-organizing nodes and laying the foundation for future low-altitude fly-by-wire research.