Życie singla – świadomy wybór czy maska samotności?

Abstract

Loneliness is one of the most serious problems facing humanity at the beginning of the 21st century. The dynamic development of civilization and the instrumentalization of life have caused millions of people around the world to suffer from loneliness. Today, it is even believed that it is a disease of civilization, and „sufferers” of this disease are called „singles”. This term, above all, gave lonely people a chance to get out of the crisis caused by ridicule. Singles are usually portrayed as those who do not so much want to live alone by choice as their negative personality traits, consumerist attitude to life and sexual promiscuity mean that they cannot find a permanent partner. This media image is far from the real life of a single person. Not every single person is egotistical and irresponsible egocentric. Not everyone wants to live alone, because it is more comfortable, easier and more pleasant. It is worth adding that each single has its own story. Everyone bases their life choices on their own, often difficult and painful experiences. Very often this is a man whose life simply turned out in such a way that he failed to build a relationship with another person for various reasons and would give a lot to change it. Maybe there is some trauma, shyness, depression or other serious mental problem behind it, which makes it very difficult to open up to another person, and the currently fashionable „single state” is a kind of mask for the surrounding world. Key words: loneliness, loneliness by choice, loneliness by necessity, single, singleness