Two Moms and a Baby

Abstract

Lesbian mothers are often excluded from the experiences, wisdom, and folklore shared by heterosexual mothers. Their support system may not include other lesbian mothers, and fear and hatred may prevent heterosexual mothers from sharing their experiences with lesbians. Moreover, the wisdom often passed from mother to daughter is often denied to lesbians who have been rejected by their family of origin, or whose family of origin disapproves of lesbian motherhood. These circumstances leave lesbian couples choosing motherhood few options for information and support-prompting many to turn to professionals. This paper provides research-based answers to the many questions future lesbian parents may have as they begin to explore bringing a child into their lives. It also provides a list of questions counselors may want to explore as they begin a counseling relationship with a lesbian couple choosing motherhood.